Tip No. 4: A simple physical gesture...

   Tonight's post is gonna be short and sweet. I noticed that many a times, paying lip service is nowhere compared to the simple gesture of holding Dear's hands. Studies have shown that babies who grow up being touched more frequently by their parents and loved ones are more caring and concerned about people around them compared to those who are touched less frequently. I have no idea whether I belong to the first category but being kinky aside, I believe in the gesture of touching for love.

   Holding hands not only convey the message of love and care, it also brings about a good level of connection. When we hold hands and walk together, we are in sync with each other in terms of path and movement: we see the connection between us. Even a simple gesture of patting Dear's head, her back or even the back of her hands while letting her walk first when going up the escalator in a crowded place, or even when I am talking to someone but yet still trying to maintain the connectivity with her. All these will gradually points to simple acts of love and connection.

  Ha nothing too physical beyond that tonight, but u are always on my mind :)

  Love is not so much about how often I say I love u, but about how much I can prove that it is true....

 

Tip No. 3: A simple prayer

     I know Dear has been feeling down and frustrated these days because of her ex-husband. So we decided to meet up yesterday evening for some good old Rocher ice-cream with waffle to cheer her up. I am not too sure how much her mood has perked up at the end of the night, but I do know she is feeling better already when she asked a question. She asked why I can be so tolerant of her mood swings for the past few days. I merely smiled and held her hands, and said I would be there for her when she needs me. As I can see, Tip 2 is already doing its wonders.

   A friend of mine posted the 5 golden rules to happiness which I think is very true:

   1.  Free your heart from worries
   2.  Free your heart from hatred
   3.  Live simply
   4.  Expect less
   5.  Do more.

   Perhaps Dear can think about the 5 golden rules and somehow you will feel better after that. Things may get a bit tight for the next one month or so, but hey you have been through worse and had survived well. So u can definitely make it. I believe in you :)   


   Tip 3 is merely got to do with a simple prayer to your God. Whatever religious beliefs u may hold, a simple prayer and talk to your God not only lets your head and lips pray for the good things such as happiness, good fortune and good health, but somehow it also has the effect of giving u a better peace of mind after that. A prayer to God may not give u the resolution u wanted immediately, but God always has the strange effect of making things better for the future to come.

   Try it tonight for 5 mins before you sleep tonight. Talking to God can be talking to your best friend: no restrictions and no specific techniques to talk to HIM. Just talk to him with your heart and soul, and HE will listen to u. At the very least, HE can grant u a better sleep.

  I will say a silent prayer for u as well every night. God Bless U Dear....

50 tips to a healthy relationship with Tee: Tip No. 2

  Instill a smile every day in the relationship. Your infectious smile is what drives me on every day, even if we do not meet up every time. I can sense your smile even over the phone, whether it's over something silly I said or do. So I believe I should also portray a smile each day as well. Life is short and it has to go on, no matter how lousy it may be.

  With Dear around, a smile each time will turn into ten smiles a day, and eventually escalates to a hundred a day perhaps.

  So smile your day away.....

And an additional photo of ur fave actor right in the chest :)

 

50 tips to a healthy relationship with Tee: Tip No.1

    Tolerance and adherence to her is key, no matter how "demanding or unreasonable" my Dear may be, I must be absolutely patient and tolerant of her. She may have her extreme temper, extreme way to vent her anger (especially through really harsh words towards me), how she may be really 口是心非. But deep down in my heart, you are still around.

   I still remember a few months back when you took a cab back home from obar, and I went back to the pub and drank further. I remember sitting at the couch with Eric, and thinking of you, suddenly I broke down and really cried. I have not really cried for a gal for a long time, and perhaps that was when I realised I really like u. And for the first time in a long time, I was afraid of losing someone....

  I still remember that feeling then... I hope that feeling will linger for a long long time....

 1 down, 49 more to come.....

The introspective aspect of things to come...

   Finally back in Singapore after spending my first overseas trip in the hotel with Dear. Although this is our second trip to KSL, it was a pretty satisfying trip for the 2D1N. I believe more satisfying in terms of food, experience and "loots" for Dear. But perhaps in a way also satisfying for me too because I thought because of my "flirty" endeavours, this trip would not have materialised in the first place.

   My casual and flirty sms-es with her Thai friend almost became a disaster, but nonetheless, things still managed to come to a better conclusion. With Dear firmly in my life now, I believe all these flirting ways will end up a natural death. And I defnitely dun see the need for me to be an Agony Aunt to gals in general, whether it is a ex flame, a close female friend or simply a female friend "referred" to me.

  And also time for me to stop going beyond the call of duty to help certain friends. Friends are meant to be cherished and I believe a true friendship has to be mutual in terms of views and thoughts. It is with this thought in mind that the absolutely unbelievable incorrigible "E" be forever banished and hard-deleted from my phone list and memory. All previous thoughts of chasing him for payment and subsequently shaming him shall be put to rest. RIP "E" lol.

  Perhaps I should spent some time in dedicating the 2D1N JB trip to words here, but I believe these are better placed as memories in our hearts. Both Dear and I knew where the sweet memories are :). Let's take a introspective view of our relationship and hope for better things to come. Discard the unwanted and embrace the brand new good :)

  And in a way, I look forward to seeing ur elder sis and some of ur family members too...

  Have a nice day Dear... Definitely miss u :)

Hoping...

   No matter what, I still feel strongly for u... hope u can leave the incident on sat behind and I really hope to see u on tues morning....

   Love u...

Sorry seemed to be the hardest word...

   有时候我觉得这一路走来不容易. 有时侯, 一句简单的sorry就够了, 不过昨晚不知为何就是不能平扶我当时的心情. 我知道以我昨晚的态度, 以你的性格, 你一定不多问而吊头就带W离开.

   I took the train towards Admiralty, but after 10 minutes i stopped at Yew Tee, alighted and went back to Jurong East... I walked aimlessly around the interchange and food court, hoping to catch a glimpse of u.... I went to FairPrice, hoping to catch a glimpse of u..... I went to JCube and searched all 4 levels, hoping to catch a glimpse of u..... I bought a drink at 7-11 and sat at the stands on the 4th floor and watching people ice skate.... for around 30 minutes....

   U told me u did not need me to change the currency for u because u dun feel like going anymore.....  I start to ask myself if this is really all my fault end of the day.... I dunno anymore... 当时的我, 觉得委屈, 觉得不开心. I have been feeling down since the night before.... u are not wrong to say no to me the night before, but somehow I feel down... I remember telling u that sometimes u must lower your expectations towards certain things.... I realised I start to have expectations of u. And now I realised perhaps its wrong of me to have those expectations towards u. For now, u are not my regular partner, u are not my girlfriend, u are not even my lover.

  Must we always rely on my blog to convey my thoughts and feelings towards u? I dunno... maybe I have became a freak without me knowing..... I hope W loves the lego set.... I spent more than 3 hours walking to Atrium to get it, then walking around killing time while waiting for u, then walked my way from Tanglin Mall to Holland Village before taking a train back to Jurong. I did not want to go back home to take a short rest in case my mum asked, so I told u I be early, hoping u can come earlier to meet me. U may think that u are only slightly late than your scheduled 6.20pm, but perhaps to me, I spent most of the afternoon waiting for u. Hhhmmm wrong and misplaced expectations, but worst part is end of the day, we did not spent the evening together. I really look forward to seeing u, but I just cannot cheer myself up on time when I see u..... I had a long long day yesterday, not to mention I am already late for church even by the time u arrived and we did set off from Jurong....

  I know your temperament, I know your character. And you are right, so perhaps I have been wrong all these while. I overestimated myself......

  Guys should be more big hearted and initiate the "sorry" first... Sorry, but this time round, sorry seemed to be the hardest word.....

  PS I do look forward to JB trip, but from the look of things, I dun think it will happen. I leave it to u....